The 3 Traits That The Person Who Is Meant For You Should Have

Life is really all about the people you choose to spend it with. Some of these people push you to be the best version of yourself, while others drag you down or hold you back.
Due to a mix of envy, jealousy, confusion or lack of personal ambition, some people don’t want to see others succeed. Watching those around them succeed means they are failing, and this attitude is toxic.
By identifying the following attributes in the people you choose to spend your time with, your relationships will be more mutually beneficial and happy, and help forge the path to inevitable success.
A worthy adversary, a challenger and a person worth your time, love and effort is the only type of person you should associate with. You can recognize this type of person when he or she is all of the following:

Someone who challenges you

We all like to be comfortable; it’s a beautiful feeling of relief and consolation, like finally getting into your own warm bed after a long, rough day.
However, comfort is not always a good thing. We can easily become too comfortable in today’s world of instant gratification. This level of comfort can often lead us to settle, and that needs to be avoided at all costs. This is why we need to surround ourselves with others who will not let us get too comfortable.
Your girlfriend and friends should always be challenging you to be a better person. They should aid you and push you to reach your full potential, question your decisions, provoke your thoughts and support your actions.

Someone you can see a future with

Respect and trust goes hand in hand, and really, these are the most important things. It is essential to have respect for the people you are close with. Expect and hope they tell you the truth and are real with you. Blind encouragement, or passive-aggressive conflict resolution can destroy relationships.
We need those we trust and respect to always tell us the truth, even if it is hard to hear. Respect and trust are the foundations of love, stability and success.
Relationships that have these components are meaningful if both or all people involved are very invested in the overall success and not selfishly using each other for personal gain.
We are the company we keep; so analyze your relationships and make sure the people you spend time with challenge you to be a better person. Ask yourself if you truly respect and trust the other person, and overall if he or she will be a part of your future and grow alongside you.

HEART SURGERY!!!

As a woman sometimes we place so much focus on the type of guy we want to marry, but less emphasis on the kind of woman we are to be, not for him, but for ourselves. I grew up being taught to write down a list of things you want to see in your future husband. As a born again, top of my list was Man of God, Prayer warrior, worshiper, business man etc .

As I grew older I learned that such men don’t just happen, they are groomed in Gods secret making process, which may not be complete by the time I say I do… The other day while going through this list. I started asking myself I wonder if my husband to be had the same list? Would I match up to his criteria? It hit me then that it is less about what I want him to be, but more about the kind of woman I had to be to for myself first, before I can be what he desires.

It then dawned on me that perhaps the greatest mistake that we make as woman is that we place so much emphasis on the perfection that he must possess, that we neglect dealing with our own imperfections. Somehow we believe that marriage will deal with the areas that we would rather not expose. One thing that I have come to know, is that marriage doesn’t heal or deal with what you never exposed. The demons that you fail to acknowledge will not just disappear because of his presence in your life.

So now my prayer has changed from GOD bring Mr the right man, to God prepare me to be the right woman, not for him, but for me, for the sustainability of what we will once day share. It scary I won’t lie to have to deal with issues that you thought you had mastered, but that’s the first point of healing. Being able to acknowledge that I am not perfect and need God to do an intense surgery from within. Because there is no way I can even begin to love someone else’s imperfections if I can’t love myself.

I’m learning that If I want things to change in my life it has to start with me. For so long I tried to separate who I was from what I did until I finally accepted that I needed it all to be whole. I can no longer pretend that I didn’t feel ashamed for the many detours my life made along the way. I have taken the task of washing my rags with Grace. I have come to accept that I cannot undo what I’d done, but I don’t have to accept a lifetime of punishment for it either. I don’t have to accept pain just because I hurt others. I don’t have to settle just because I was afraid to dream. I don’t need a project just because I want to hide my own rubble.

I am learning that You can’t keep pretending you aren’t aching. All my life I wanted to heal other people and ignore my own bleeding. I don’t believe marriage was meant to be a bandaid to cover our pain, no more than church became the place where we pretend we’re okay. In the safety of our lover’s arm with God’s presence hovering above we pray our love gives them the strength to sift through their rags. How could I motivate healing unless I started with myself?

This isn’t about staying married, getting divorced, or falling in love. This is about recognizing that you have to search for the beauty in your rags so that you can help someone else see the beauty in their own. It’s not about being with someone who makes it easier for you to ignore your imperfections, its about creating a love that inspires growth. Starting with you and spreading that love to all you encounter…

A better tomorrow is reserved for those brave enough to embrace their past, exhale their shame, and create hope in the face of doubt. Because I’m tired of dividing who we could be, who we are, and who we once were… I can’t ignore my past and have a full future.  I’m going to show my children that we don’t always get it right, but we never stop trying. I’ll teach them that some tears you cry over and over until you get to the root of the problem. And I’ll strive to teach them that you have to love yourself first, because that’s the only way you can truly love another imperfect person…

What to Do When It Makes No Sense

“I know that you can do anything, and no one can stop you. You asked, ‘Who is this that questions my wisdom with such ignorance?’ It is I — and I was talking about things I knew nothing about, things far too wonderful for me.… I take back everything I said, and I sit in dust and ashes to show my repentance.” (Job 42:1-3, 6 NLT) Instead of asking God “Why?” you need to learn to trust God in things you don’t understand. For 37 chapters in the book of Job, Job asks the “why” questions: “Why is this happening to me? Why are you allowing this? Why so much pain? Why so much discomfort? Why haven’t you answered my prayers?” In chapter 38, Job stops asking “why.” And God says, “Now I’d like to ask you a few questions.” And for the next two chapters, God barrages Job with questions that only God can answer. He asks things like, “Where were you when I made the universe? Can you explain the law of gravity?” And, after two chapters, Job realizes that he is just a man, and his knowledge is limited. Who is he to question God? Job stops questioning, and he starts trusting. He replied to the Lord, “I know that you can do anything, and no one can stop you. You asked, ‘Who is this that questions my wisdom with such ignorance?’ It is I — and I was talking about things I knew nothing about, things far too wonderful for me.… I take back everything I said, and I sit in dust and ashes to show my repentance” (Job 42:1-3, 6 NLT). What do you do in a situation where you can’t see the whole picture, things aren't clear, and it makes no sense to you what’s happening? You remind yourself of the things about God that you do know. Even in the middle of his doubts, Job affirmed what he knew to be true about God: God is loving (Job 10:12), God is all powerful (Job 36:22), God is in control (Job 34:13), God had a plan for his life (Job23:14), God would protect him (Job 5:11). I don’t know what you’re dealing with in your life, but I will tell you this: God is passionately and intimately aware of every detail that you’re going through right now. He’s paying attention to your every breath. Nothing misses God’s attention. You may not understand why you’re going through what you’re going through, but you need to say this to God: “I know you’re good; I know you’re loving; I know you’re powerful; I know you notice the details of my life; I know you’re in control; I know you have a plan; I know you will protect me.” Then, you need to trust God — no matter what. Whatever you’re going through, tell God exactly how you feel. He can handle it! Accept help from others. Stop asking “why,” and start trusting God for the things you don’t understand by Rick Warren Be Blessed! 204me

Don't Give Up

Don't Give Up by Rick Warren

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 (NIV) Failure is never final. You’re never a failure until you quit, and it’s always too soon to quit! You don't determine a person’s greatness by his talent, his wealth, or his education. You determine a person’s greatness by what it takes to discourage him. So what does it take to discourage you from going after your dream? It may be as simple as a friend or relative or family member telling you, “I don’t think that’s a good idea.” The Bible says in Galatians 6:9, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” (NIV). You want to know how many times I wanted to resign from Saddleback Church? Just every Monday morning when I think, “God, surely somebody could have done a better job than I did yesterday. This thing is too big for any one person.” God says, “Just keep on keeping on.” I may not be real bright sometimes, but I don’t know how to quit. I don’t know how to give up. God works in your life according to your faith. The Bible says, “Without faith it’s impossible to please God” and “Whatsoever is not of faith is sin” and “According to your faith it will be done unto you.” So what are you doing in faith? You need to ask yourself every day when you get up, “God, what can I do today that will require faith?” That’s an important question, because that’s what’s going to please God. There are a lot of things in your life you don’t have control over. You didn't control who your parents were, when you were born, where you were born, or what your race or nationality is. You didn't control what gifts and talents you were given. You didn't decide how you look. But you do have complete control over how much you choose to believe God. God uses people who expect him to act, who never give up, who take risks in faith, who get his dream and go after it. It’s your choice whether you want to be the kind of person God uses to accomplish his purpose. Talk It Over What are the things that discourage you and keep you from pursuing your goals? How do you think God wants you to respond to those circumstances? What act of faith is God asking you to do today? God Bless! 204me

PREPARE TO FLY ..

A young woman sat on a park bench over lunch and while she sat there she noticed a butterfly trying to come out of its cocoon. She watched it struggle and struggle for more than an hour.

Eventually feeling sorry for it she reached for a small pair of scissors and gently used it to clip open the cocoon. To her surprise the butterfly that was released did not fly away but instead it just sat there totally crippled. 

You see, what she did not realise is that the struggle a butterfly goes through, is what pumps blood into its wings so that it may be able to fly! 

Isaiah 40:31

King James Version (KJV)

³¹ But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

The eagle is an unusual bird, because it has mastered the ability to fly into a storm. It "mounts" strong winds as though it is going up a staircase. It is the only bird that you will find flying during a storm. 

This year, 2014, approach life with the majesty of an eagle! Do not be afraid of headwinds or opposition; use them, mount them like stairs for your success! The word "wait upon" comes from the Hebrew word, "qawah", which denotes someone who is "serving" as they wait. It is an active process and not passive.

You might be struggling to get a job; you might be struggling to make your finances work; you might be struggling to fund your education; you might be struggling to make a small business successful; you might be struggling to get ahead in your job; you might even be going through viscous persecution, that even threatens your very life.

Listen to me; from today, start thinking about it differently! No matter how dark, no matter how challenging, you are not going under; you are going over...just don't give up!

 

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Change History by the words that you speak.

Fifty years ago, Martin Luther King, Jr. stood on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial and spoke words that would change history. “I have a dream…”As a preacher, King understood the power of words. His bold declaration became a pivotal moment in the American Civil Rights Movement and shifted the destiny of his followers.The power of the spoken word is one of life’s greatest mysteries.
All you will ever be or accomplish hinges on how you govern what comes out of your mouth. What you allow to occupy your mind and proceed from your mouth either lifts your life to the heights of success, or sends it to the depths of failure, sadness, and discontent.

Most believers live beneath the standard God has ordained for His children—they don’t realize every declaration and decree has the power to change the trajectory of their life and alter destinies.

Too many people release careless words into the atmosphere—then wonder why they aren’t experiencing the life God promised.

Scripture reveals that the universe responds to our words—good or bad, purposeful or errant. So don’t waste your breath! You will be held accountable for every idle word, but you will also be rewarded for words spoken in faith.

Your words are the raw material that forms the life you were meant to live! Just as great architects select the perfect combination of brick and mortar to build towering skyscrapers and timeless monuments, consciously choosing your words pulls the resources of heaven into your circumstances.

Remember, words released into the atmosphere do not disappear or dissipate. They are not limited by geography. They are suspended—incubated in the Spirit realm—until conditions are right for them to be realized.

So don’t waste your breath! Use your words to release God’s power and presence in your life today. Speak life transforming, destiny-altering words!

By: Cindy Trimm

I Spoke to my unborn child!

I do believe that although you have not been formed in my womb, you are there, in the deepest place, where God is downloading you with all things pertaining to life, for the skyscraper life  you are to lead. At times though, I so badly want to meet you, but when I look at how rough the world is, the disfunctionalities in society, how the abnormal things have been made normal. I question my desire to bring you into such world. Amidst the fears I’m reminded though, that my fears can’t abort Gods purpose, because I know that is what you are. So in the midst of my fears which are  at times overwhelming, I know I must yield to the greater will, Gods creation of you.

At times, in my secret place when no one is watching, I push my tummy out and pretend you are there, I talk to you, because in my heart I believe you are listening. Insane others may say, but not at all for me, cause I know that every word I speak, one day I will see the fruits therefof.So let me speak to you my dear child, let mama tell you one of the greatest lessons I recently learned and wish to share with you, which I believe will help you as you try and make sense of world and your place and purpose in it.

If there is one thing that I will drill into your head from the time your mind can comprehend, is that you can be anything that you want to be. You see my love, all my life I desired to be on TV, not for fame but I believed and still believe that media is one of the greatest mediums, which can be used constructively when placed in the right hands. But because of external pressures I began to down play my dream, because in a home of academic and high achievers being on TV is seen as  aiming low and ambitionless.

It’s painful my love, to live in the shadow of others , to try and impress people who will never really be impressed by you, and who will later not be there to assist when their expert advice on the “best career path “fails dismally. So If asked what I know now, that I wish I knew then, I would wish that I trusted and listened to my inner voice more than the opinions of others.

I look back though, at times with regret but also with gratitude because I see now that they are certain lessons that can only be learned through the fire. And maybe all that I have been through is to teach you you, not to go down the similar path, not to make the same mistakes, and if you make them, to know that I am here to walk you through it all. So my love, when you know what you want in life, stick to the convictions of your heart, let nothing  down play your dream, not even you, There is no bar, you will have as far as your eyes can see.

 

Sometimes all we need is a PUSH!!

I have often heard people say no man is an island, that somehow we are all created to be beneficiaries of each other’s God given talents and gifts. In a society however which promotes a culture of “every man for himself” it is rare to find people nowadays who are able to see greatness is others and then make it their priority to ensure that they enhance it or provide a platform for that gift to flourish.

There is a question that I challenge myself with daily, which says: Whose success has become my priority, whose life has become better because of my existence?” If there is something that I fear most is to become so great that I forget that the greatest calling is to serve .I have learned it is in serving ,giving your life tirelessly   for those who can’t return the favor,that true love is expressed and the UBUNTU ideal made a reality.

While travelling in a taxi the other day I met a young man who taught me a valuable life lesson without even being aware of it. In our conversation he expressed his desire to one day be a lawyer, despite his family financial problems. He was now on route to his part time job of cutting grass, just so that he can get money to cover his fees for the next term.

What struck me about this young man, was his determination to fight for his life. I found myself struggling to hold back the tears as he explained how for many nights in the past term he had gone without food, or just on a slice of bread, these just a few of the many challenges that he was currently facing. As I was listening to him, desiring so much to just give a huge cheque to cover all his needs, yet knowing in reality that all I had in my wallet was a lousy R2.00 and what can that do?

Eventually after he was done, I got the courage to speak, still not sure what to say when the words “I believe in you and I know you can do it” came rushing out. Where I got the boldness to say that to someone I hardly knew still amazes me , but it came from a sincere place. He then burst into tears, and there I am looking at him, thinking ok did I say something wrong? He sobbed for like a good five minutes and we girls know there’s nothing more painful than seeing a man. Trying so hard to fight the tears, he explained that all his life, he had never heard someone tell him that. All his life he longed to find someone to believe in the possibilities of his dreams. His last words as he walked away.. “You have given me hope.”

I left that day moved and so inspired and like Oprah I had an AAAAAH moment and it hit me as I watched him disappear at a distance that “sometimes all we need is a push. “At times  all people need is the assurance that they have the inherent power in them to overcome. When you expose people dynamic and transformational power of love, you give them reason to believe, to hope, to live. I  have come to know that the human spirit understands one thing love, its born of  love , for love, to be loved. Once it finds this love, it thrives, lives and believes.

Let me end by leaving you with this to ponder on: The true character of a man is measured by the way he treats those who can do nothing for them. Be love, spread love, live love!

 

 

5 Ways to Put Steam into Your Dreams

1.      Be a Goal-getter.
It’s been noted that on average, only about 5% of people write down their goals. Yet the 5% who do, end up accomplishing those goals 95% of the time. A small percentage of doers can make a BIG difference. If you write out your goals you have a better chance of accomplishing them…when you see it, that’s motivation to do it! GOals help you to go and propel yourself forward, without them you lack direction.

2.      . Read information  that stretches your mind.
Remember that “a mind stretched by new ideas, never returns to its original dimension.” What you feed your mind today, will grow in your life tomorrow. Begin to feed your faith and let your fears/doubts die of starvation.

3.      Love and appreciate who you are.
Too many times we focus on our weaknesses and become so self-critical, that we ignore the value that we have within. You canʼt expect anybody to love and appreciate who you are, if you donʼt love and appreciate yourself first. You will eventually attract who and what you are. Know who and whose you are. When you don’t know who you are, you leave it to the world to define you. Embrace your uniqueness and know your worth!

4.       Believe you can.
The power of belief is what will unlock the door of opportunity. The faith you have to look situations in the face and say, “in spite of what it looks like, I still believe” will catapult you to the next level.

5.      Step into the winnerʼs circle.
Whether youʼre in the winnerʼs circle or not, depends on whoʼs in your circle. You are who you hang around. You will either be a chicken or an eagle, a chump or a champion, a worrier or a warrior…which will you choose? You canʼt be a whiner and a winner at the same time! Take responsibility for your life, by getting in the drivers seat and push on the path of your purpose and destiny.

                                                                                                                                       by @EddieConnorJr

 

 

 

10 Secrets for a Succcessful Life

1.Forgive yourself and others


To be successful in life, you have to learn to forgive yourself and others for things that have happened in the past. It’s often easier to forgive others than to forgive yourself, but you need to say ‘I am no longer a prisoner of the past, but a pioneer of the future’. You cannot change what happened, you can only learn from it.
This doesn’t mean that you won’t face challenges and crises as you strive to achieve your dreams and ambitions. On the contrary, in Cantonese the word ‘crisis’ consists of two concepts, ‘danger’ and ‘opportunity’. We have to remember that in any crisis, there are opportunities, and we can choose to focus either on dangers or on opportunities. Opportunity is born through the birth pains of crisis.


2. Dare to dream


The poorest person in the world is the person without a dream, and the most frustrated person is a person with a dream that never becomes a reality. To be successful, you need to live your own dream and not try to live the dreams of others. You have to be successful for your own reasons. Share your dreams with others with care, because negative people will discourage you from striving
for your dream. All of us need encouragement as we dream. It is like oxygen
to the soul.


In South Africa there are generally two kinds of people – undertakers and caretakers, and neither of these are dreamers. The undertakers are people who always criticise and say that something will never work. Caretakers are those who are always taking care of other people’s dreams and never focus on their own potential.


When you dare to dream, you begin to use words like ‘it can be done’, ‘it is possible’ and you begin to understand the power of words. Words can build or break. Dreamers are people who have a positive attitude. They realise that it is not what is happening to them that counts, but how they react to the challenges. Dreamers think big and know that success does not come from doing the same thing the same way all the time. They constantly stretch themselves to improve.


3. Show determination and commitment


Staying power is all-important in reaching your dreams and goals. You need determination and commitment.
Embrace the five Rs:
Resolve – Determined and committed people resolve to do things now because they are hungry for growth and for success.
Refrain – Determined and committed people refrain from talking to negative people and refrain from negative influences.
Repeat – Once you are successful, you need to repeat the exercise so that you become even more successful. Success is a matter of repetition and consistency.
Responsibility – Realise that you alone are responsible for your future. You alone are responsible for the outcome of your efforts.
Re-invent yourself – Don’t become complacent. Consider new ways to become even more efficient in your skill.


4. Be disciplined


As you mess with success, you begin to understand that you have to be disciplined.
Self-discipline is often the missing element in many lives. Nobody can discipline you, but yourself. At some time or other you have to say ‘No’ to certain things in life – this is called delayed gratification – you pay now, you play later.
Although a lack of discipline might not have any immediate impact on your life, you need to realise that the pain and regret of these errors are only delayed, and will come back to bite you at a later stage. Both success and failure involve future consequences, namely the inevitable rewards or unavoidable
regrets resulting from past activities.


5. Make a difference


I urge you to show grace and generosity to those who are less fortunate than you are. Remember, what you do for your self disappears when you die, but what you do for others will remain a legacy. That is true success.


6. Set a SMART goal


Now that you know what you want to achieve or become, you need to define it by making it a goal. Your goal has to be:
S – Specific
M – Measurable
A – Attainable
R – Realistic
T – Timely


7. Adapt to technology


Dependency on technology will increase in the future. Spend time learning new computer programs to improve your productivity, not as just another new toy.


8. Embrace diversity


Get comfortable with other ethnic cultures, religions and customs. Learn a little about the customs and attitudes belonging to workers from other cultures
and countries. You do not have to compromise any personal values or standards in order to do this.


9. Be creative


Being creative demands thinking outside of the box and looking for innovative ways in which to solve persistent problems, increase productivity or produce a new product or service. What worked last year may not necessarily work today. When a challenge presents itself, be the first to offer a new viewpoint or recommend an alternate course of action. Your ideas, combined with the creative ideas from other employees, will help your organisation renew itself as necessary to be competitive in the 21st century.


10. Check your attitude


Believe in yourself and have an ‘I can’ attitude. Train yourself to look beyond the negative events and to see the opportunity cocooned within an obstacle. By doing this you will add value to those around you. Refuse to grumble when circumstances are adverse. Refuse to complain. Be grateful for where you are now, and for where you are headed. Your attitude determines your altitude!

*The above is an extract from David Molapo's book Choose to Change*

Chris, why am I not yet a millionaire?

“Dear Chris, I am young, driven, aspirational person. A while back I decided to set a financial goal for myself and given what I’ve heard you teach, the clear and definite goal which I set for myself was – By 31 December 2013, I will have R3,5million in my possession – the year is now drawing to a close and I am no richer than I was at the beginning of the year. Please help me understand what it is that I am doing wrong – thank you”.

Let’s unpack the above situation and let’s do this in a series of sequential steps so that by the time you have finished reading this article, your money and wealth consciousness will have escalated considerably, and, you will have also gained valuable insight into what you have to do if you want to have the universe deliver ‘The BIG Money’ to you…

Allow me to introduce you to The Laws of Compensation: Ralph Waldo Emerson says that The Law of Compensation is the law of laws. As Emerson says “Every act rewards itself”. This Law is also known as The Law of Cause and Effect, or The Great Law or The Law of Karma. The best way to define compensation is what you invest time and effort wise into something is what you’re going to get back. To improve your life, you must first focus on and improve yourself. When you do this, you can expect good to be on its way to you. This Law will help you when you choose to help yourself.

This Law is based on three steps. Understand this clearly, the amount of money or good you will receive in your life is going to be in direct ratio with these three things:

1.      1. The need for what you do.

2.      2. Your ability to do it.

3.      3. The difficulty there will be in replacing you.

So, to build on point 1, if you want to be a millionaire, desiring to have R3,5million in your possession, then as your money coach, the very first question I am going to ask you is “Is there sufficient need for what to do, to deliver the R3,5million to you? How many people are benefitting from what you do? How many problems is your work solving? What true value are you adding to society? If you’re only adding some value to very few people, why should the universe reward you with large money? What makes you so special that it should rain money on you for what is really only a very small contribution to this world?”

Next, if you want to be a millionaire, desiring to have R3,5million in your possession, then as your money coach, the second question I am going to ask you is “What is your ability to deliver against what it is that you do? Are you an absolute expert? Is your work of a world-class standard? If not, if your work in only worth a few thousand Rand at best, then why should the universe deliver R3,5million to you? Do you think the universe should give you more than what your work is truly worth? If yes, who gave you this false impression of your current monetary worth?”

Finally, if you want to be a millionaire, desiring to have R3,5million in your possession, then as your money coach, the third question I am going to ask you is “Is what you do, so unique that it is very difficult to find anyone else who can do what you do? If what you do is also done by many others, then why should you be demanding ‘The BIG Money’ from the Universe? If an average burger and chips costs R30-00 would you pay R30,000-00 for an average burger and chips just because the person believes their burger and chips is worth that amount? I think not! So, why would the universe shower millions of Rands on you if what you deliver is ordinary, of benefit to just a few people and doesn’t really make much a difference to society and humanity?”

Yes, I know this is a very hard-hitting money article, however, as a money coach, it is my job to make sure that you understand that you will be rewarded according to the value which you create and so, if you create little value, then even if you go down on your knees every day and pray to universe for millions of Rands, know this, the money won’t come because that’s not how the universe works.

The universe is very fair and rewards you exactly with what you truly deserve, not a cent more. The universe will deliver to you in accordance what you deliver to others. Deliver little value, expect to receive little money. Deliver huge value to thousands of people and expect to receive millions of Rands. It is as simple as this.

BY:Chris_Styles41

 

 

 

 

 

Live Through Dying Places

In America, October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. It’s a reminder that we can
overcome obstacles and live through dying places. All of us have been affected by
cancer, whether directly or indirectly. We must encourage our loved one’s/friends, to
schedule their Doctor’s appointments and increase their awareness about various forms
of cancer.

The saying goes, “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” We must be more
proactive than reactive. It’s very important that we examine ways in which to improve
our lifestyles, eating habits, level of fitness, relationships, and overall personal
development.

Every second in America, 2-3 people are diagnosed with cancer. Those are startling
statistics, yet harsh realities. Cancer is no respecter of age, race, gender, or economic
standing. A diagnosis is not a death sentence and the bright side is that there are 2.5
million breast cancer survivors, living in the United States.

How do you respond to the interruptions of life? How do you deal with hardship and
life’s challenges? These are the same questions I asked myself, being diagnosed with
cancer as a teenager. For nearly 2 years, I endured chemotherapy and radiation, 5 days
a week. The physical pain was unbearable with hair loss, nausea, spinal taps, etc.
Oftentimes the psychological pain took an even greater toll, where I wanted to give up
and die.

I was in the fight of my life, but I decided to resurrect faith in the midst of fear. I was at
death’s door, but I was determined to live. My belief connected with God’s healing
power and I gained the victory. To overcome I had to change my mindset from negative
to positive and see the impossible as I’m possible. I had to see the word “CAN” in
CANcer, that in spite of what I’m enduring I CAN make it and I CAN overcome…so CAN
YOU!

You’re reading the words of a stage 4 CANcer survivor! By God’s grace and healing
power, I am alive today. I have overcome and continue to live through dying places.
YOU CAN too! In spite of the situation you’re facing, look at the pain and resurrect
power in the midst of it. Resurrect a smile in the midst of sadness. Resurrect a mindset
to overcome the odds. Shake yourself free from every breakdown and transform it into a
breakthrough…you can LIVE through DYING places!

BY: EddieConnorJr

Whose report will you BELIEVE??

There are so many voices that you have given Lordship in your life, so much so that when these voices speak you take what they say to be true. These voices may be your parents who have said that you will never be anything in life because of your temporary setbacks. It may your own destructive thoughts telling you that there is nothing left to live anymore that you might as well give up. It may society telling you that the unemployment rate is increasing, so you will never get a job. It may be your family telling you that in your family such professions are not allowed, because they don’t bring money, but my question to you today is : Whose report will you believe?

Whose voice have you amplified so much do that you believe the facts, which are always subject to change, through the word of God. I urge this morning not to go by the facts, but to take God at his word. Not everything that is said, that you must apply in your life. Be selective in your listening, if it’s not aligned with the word, don’t speak that in your life. This is what the word says:, I have plans to prosper you not to harm you,  plans to give you a hope and future.

I have made you the head and not the tail, and given you dominion over all things. As I AM SO YOU ARE. I am blessed and can never be cursed; the Lord has blessed all the work of my hands. I am co-heir with Christ. I own the whole world. Those are the confession that you must daily make over your life, because you will become what you constantly say. You are a Victor in Christ! Availability

Never judge a persons story/pain you dont understand!!

When I lived in Cape Town a few years ago, I used to stay live in an area which has a high rate of prostitution, literally during the day, you would stop the car and in an instant you would have a lady by your window, asking “How much”. For some crazy reason I was fascinated by their lifestyle, not in way that I would ever be a prostitute, but inside me I had this burning desire to find out what drives a person to the point of desperation that they are willing to sleep with a man they don’t know? Inside I kept on thinking how desperate must one get to subject themselves to such a danger

So my curious self-decided to stalk one of them, well I didn’t really get to talk to her, don’t even know what her name is, but every night I would stand on the balcony and wave at her. Almost all the time it was just before a car parked at the side to pick her up. I juts grieved for her, but at the same time my then religious mind condemned her. I mean I would smile at her all the time, even during the day when I saw her drive away in another man, but inside I said hurtful words, all in ignorance because back then I was lil Miss Perfect and religion had taught me that anyone who wasn’t as perfect as me, or those I associated with was devilish.

But there is something about hitting rock bottom that makes you realise how imperfect you are , outside of Christ. Now don’t go thinking that I did drugs or whatever it wasn’t that bad, but for me my defining moment , or what Oprah call my “AHaah” moment came when I missed the mark in a certain area of my life and right there and then I began to see people differently. No longer did I have labels, to justify a lifestyle, the root of which I didn’t know. No longer did I run way from those that were not like me, but I embraced them with love.

I grew to understand the grace of God and I believe that I have not as yet fully grasped it. I learned that you may hate the lifestyle of a person, but never the person. You may hate certain behaviours, but it’s not in your pace to judge, but to love. Even your rebuke must be done so in love. Love is powerful; it’s the greatest force against any sin. Love, agape deals with sin by grace.

So when you walk down the street tomorrow and you see someone who doesn’t look like you, doesn’t act the way you think is appropriate. Before  you judge, verbally or within, Know this: That we are all made in the image and likeness of God and its LOVE  that we are need to walk in with all man, till we all walk  the reality of who we are in Christ.

Ladies:Matters of the heart:Its clean up time!

To the ladies. There comes a time in life where you have got to remove the mask and admit to yourself that there are deep inner issues that are causing the destructive patterns in your life. I am of the belief that no one wants to drink themselves to a standstill, no one wants to have sex with every man that avails themselves, no one wants to dress inappropriately, and no one wants to be a drug addict. No one whom God has made wants prostitute their body, for cash that doesn’t even amount to their worth. But there are deep issues,  i.e. seeds of rejection that have been sown, there are destructive words that have been spoken, abuse that has been afflicted, that is now manifesting itself in the fruits that you see in many woman’s lives. As someone who has been in Christ for some time now , I also had to learn the hard way that until I deal with the issues of the past, as anointed as I AM, there will be manifestations in whatever form , of the roots I failed to kill.

Listen it’s easy to just ignore the many signs that you are seeing that all is not well, but whatever you don’t acknowledge you can heal. Sex can’t solve, men can’t solve, drinking won’t do it, but only first admitting to where the problem lies, and then asking God the Holy Spirit to take you through it will help. It’s a process I must tell you because you are healed in your spirit man, but it’s your soul that must now believe it and walk in it.

If there is someone whom you are close to and would like to open up to them and you are comfortable with that, then do that, talking does heal. I just think that it’s time that we as woman take off the veil, take off the mask and admit to ourselves that I am struggling in this area and “God it’s you I need now more than anything else. “

We are not getting any younger and the longer we put things on hold, the deeper the issues become. We are going to be the calibre of woman that radiate Gods glory, but he can’t new wine, on old wine skin. There are things that have to be destroyed in this season, dealt with, once and for all.

Today take of the mask, cry if you must, but cry out to God in faith, and tell him that you need him to deal with all the issues that you have supressed for so many years. God is restoring all that you have lost. ITS TIME FOR GOD THE HOLY SPIRIT TO WORK IN US!

Men, the seed carriers!!

To the MEN. You are more valuable than society had made you believe. IN YOU God has deposited seeds of eternal greatness. Some of you are carrying future presidents, prime ministers, billionaires, inventors and history makers There is a seed that is on the inside of you, and all that you have been through, the silent struggles you have/had, are an indication of the magnitude of what you are carrying. Contrary to the labels that society had given you, because of your temporary challenges, you are Gods masterpiece, created unto good works.

I don’t know what it’s like to be a man, at times I am so grateful that I am not, because I have come to understand that being man goes beyond just jeans and t-shirt, its deeper than having muscles and god looks, but being a man means being means that you are a seed carrier and with that comes many persecutions and challenges.

 At times we as woman see put such blame on you, based our insecurities, at times we blame you for not being man enough ,and yet often ,not always, we are trying to find in you what Christ has not perfected in us, or in you, and for that God the holy spirit must help us.

 I want to assure you that are going to make it, you may have made so many mistakes and call yourself by what you have done , or are doing, but you are not that, you are better than the area in which you are missing the mark. You are who and what God says you are. A royal Priesthood, a peculiar being, fearfully and wonderfully made.

 In a society that promotes finding love/fulfilment in girls, sex, anything else that can temporary gratifying. I want to assure you that there is not greater love then Gods love, once you have made him your Lord and person saviour he will be the greatest love and help to you. Your success as a man is in fellowship with God the holy spirit, when you have him , you can’t go wrong. Temptations will always be there, but by his grace is sufficient you .You will stand as you yield to his council.

To those of you who are single, wait in and on God in your single days, and allow him to prefect the area in your life that still need work. Don’t allow temporary satisfaction to destroy Gods eternal plan for your life. One moment of ignorance may cost you more than hat you bargained for. Remember that you are a seed carrier, and everything that is coming after you, is after the seed, everything meaning woman too, not every woman dressed in beautiful dress has your best interest at heart,, but when you have the holy spirit as your councillor you will be able to discern the sheep form the wolves.

Stand on the word and work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. No matter how big the dram that’s inside you, will make it, no matter what has happened know that you are right with God. God is able. You are Gods success; all things are possible through Christ.

To those that are married, I am not there yet and perhaps I am may not be able to say much, but just one thing, to you. Lay down your life for her, as Christ did for the church. Love her, listen, nurture, and cultivate the woman inside her, to be what God pre-ordained her to be. Love her, don’t compare her to the others, compliment her when she changes hair styles, remark on the new dress, applaud her excellent cooking, and you will cause her to always go before God on your behalf.

To all the men, I salute you, pray for you. You are the  greatest leaders of all time!

Whose report will you believe?

There are so many voices that you have given Lordship in your life, so much so that when these voices speak you take what they say to be true. These voices may be your parents who have said that you will never be anything in life because of your temporary setbacks. It may your own destructive thoughts telling you that there is nothing left to live anymore that you might as well give up. It may society telling you that the unemployment rate is increasing, so you will never get a job.

It may be your family telling you that in your family such professions are not allowed, because they don’t bring money, but my question to you today is : Whose report will you believe? Whose voice have you amplified so much do that you believe the facts, which are always subject to change, through the word of God. I urge this morning not to go by the facts, but to take God at his word. Not everything that is said, that you must apply in your life.

 Be selective in your listening, if it’s not aligned with the word, don’t speak that in your life. This is what the word says:, I have plans to prosper you not to harm you,  plans to give you a hope and future. I have made you the head and not the tail, and given you dominion over all things.

As I AM SO YOU ARE. I am blessed and can never be cursed; the Lord has blessed all the work of my hands. I am co-heir with Christ. I own the whole world. Those are the confession that you must daily make over your life, because you will become what you constantly say. You are a Victor in Christ!

Black nation:Our issues are soul deep!

There are deeper issues in the soul that are keeping black people out of financial freedom they were ordained to walk in, one of those strongholds, are jealousy. I have come to learn that the deep issues of hatred among black people, which many of times lead to bewitching others, come from a deep place of resentment and jealousy. I

It’s not only ezilalni where you hear of people being bewitched, but also within the corporate sector, among the educated you find black people behlebana, competing and doing all sought of horrible things, the root of it all being jealousy.

It will take the word of God to erase the slave mentality caused by apartheid, but more deeply than that we need the word of God, love, Christ, to deal with the deeper issues of the heart, that seem small as , but are causing so much damage. Love, is the key to success, outside of that God can’t do anything. He can’t bless a wicked heart.

 I am not saying that such issues are found among other races, am sure there are, but I’m just speaking from what I have seen. We need to ask God to daily deal with us as individuals, so that we  make sure that we are not sowing seeds of jealousy, which will later harvest into hatred.

Train your soul to applaud others when they have done well, compliment someone when they do good, or have a new look, celebrate others people‘s gifts. Always make sure that as God raises you up, there are others that you are pulling up with you..#lovetalk#

YOU ARE GODS DREAM!!

Not all of us are going to own empires like Donald Trump, not all us wilL fill stadiums with woman/men drooling over us and crying over our amazing voices. Not all will be known as the fastest man on earth and have big brands like Nike endorsing us. Not all of us will be national icons that get to represent our county with pride all around the world. Not all of us are created to  be popular but all of us are created to be EEFECTIVE.

You see it doesn’t  matter that many don’t know of you, but that is no reason  to  down play Gods purpose for  your life. It’s a great purpose, not because of the number of people that follow you, or sing your praises, but because of the ability of that purpose to impact/change lives for the better. So never look at those whose names God has made great and desire to be them or be envious of their success. The election of God is for his purpose and glory.

Your purpose may be to be behind the scenes, or you may be Joseph/Esther or David who despite their upbringing and persecution were always destined to be the forefront in what God wanted to do. So don’t look down on yourself, if yours is to impact just four people, and then do that with all your might because in those four are many nations.

If you are called for large platforms, remain humble, and use your greatness for the greater good of others. Either way may you excel in all God has called you to do.May you do it not for fame or popularity but for the advancement of Gods Kingdom and so that through your life , HIS name may be lifted up.