Sometimes all we need is a PUSH!!

I have often heard people say no man is an island, that somehow we are all created to be beneficiaries of each other’s God given talents and gifts. In a society however which promotes a culture of “every man for himself” it is rare to find people nowadays who are able to see greatness is others and then make it their priority to ensure that they enhance it or provide a platform for that gift to flourish.

There is a question that I challenge myself with daily, which says: Whose success has become my priority, whose life has become better because of my existence?” If there is something that I fear most is to become so great that I forget that the greatest calling is to serve .I have learned it is in serving ,giving your life tirelessly   for those who can’t return the favor,that true love is expressed and the UBUNTU ideal made a reality.

While travelling in a taxi the other day I met a young man who taught me a valuable life lesson without even being aware of it. In our conversation he expressed his desire to one day be a lawyer, despite his family financial problems. He was now on route to his part time job of cutting grass, just so that he can get money to cover his fees for the next term.

What struck me about this young man, was his determination to fight for his life. I found myself struggling to hold back the tears as he explained how for many nights in the past term he had gone without food, or just on a slice of bread, these just a few of the many challenges that he was currently facing. As I was listening to him, desiring so much to just give a huge cheque to cover all his needs, yet knowing in reality that all I had in my wallet was a lousy R2.00 and what can that do?

Eventually after he was done, I got the courage to speak, still not sure what to say when the words “I believe in you and I know you can do it” came rushing out. Where I got the boldness to say that to someone I hardly knew still amazes me , but it came from a sincere place. He then burst into tears, and there I am looking at him, thinking ok did I say something wrong? He sobbed for like a good five minutes and we girls know there’s nothing more painful than seeing a man. Trying so hard to fight the tears, he explained that all his life, he had never heard someone tell him that. All his life he longed to find someone to believe in the possibilities of his dreams. His last words as he walked away.. “You have given me hope.”

I left that day moved and so inspired and like Oprah I had an AAAAAH moment and it hit me as I watched him disappear at a distance that “sometimes all we need is a push. “At times  all people need is the assurance that they have the inherent power in them to overcome. When you expose people dynamic and transformational power of love, you give them reason to believe, to hope, to live. I  have come to know that the human spirit understands one thing love, its born of  love , for love, to be loved. Once it finds this love, it thrives, lives and believes.

Let me end by leaving you with this to ponder on: The true character of a man is measured by the way he treats those who can do nothing for them. Be love, spread love, live love!

 

 

5 Ways to Put Steam into Your Dreams

1.      Be a Goal-getter.
It’s been noted that on average, only about 5% of people write down their goals. Yet the 5% who do, end up accomplishing those goals 95% of the time. A small percentage of doers can make a BIG difference. If you write out your goals you have a better chance of accomplishing them…when you see it, that’s motivation to do it! GOals help you to go and propel yourself forward, without them you lack direction.

2.      . Read information  that stretches your mind.
Remember that “a mind stretched by new ideas, never returns to its original dimension.” What you feed your mind today, will grow in your life tomorrow. Begin to feed your faith and let your fears/doubts die of starvation.

3.      Love and appreciate who you are.
Too many times we focus on our weaknesses and become so self-critical, that we ignore the value that we have within. You canʼt expect anybody to love and appreciate who you are, if you donʼt love and appreciate yourself first. You will eventually attract who and what you are. Know who and whose you are. When you don’t know who you are, you leave it to the world to define you. Embrace your uniqueness and know your worth!

4.       Believe you can.
The power of belief is what will unlock the door of opportunity. The faith you have to look situations in the face and say, “in spite of what it looks like, I still believe” will catapult you to the next level.

5.      Step into the winnerʼs circle.
Whether youʼre in the winnerʼs circle or not, depends on whoʼs in your circle. You are who you hang around. You will either be a chicken or an eagle, a chump or a champion, a worrier or a warrior…which will you choose? You canʼt be a whiner and a winner at the same time! Take responsibility for your life, by getting in the drivers seat and push on the path of your purpose and destiny.

                                                                                                                                       by @EddieConnorJr

 

 

 

10 Secrets for a Succcessful Life

1.Forgive yourself and others


To be successful in life, you have to learn to forgive yourself and others for things that have happened in the past. It’s often easier to forgive others than to forgive yourself, but you need to say ‘I am no longer a prisoner of the past, but a pioneer of the future’. You cannot change what happened, you can only learn from it.
This doesn’t mean that you won’t face challenges and crises as you strive to achieve your dreams and ambitions. On the contrary, in Cantonese the word ‘crisis’ consists of two concepts, ‘danger’ and ‘opportunity’. We have to remember that in any crisis, there are opportunities, and we can choose to focus either on dangers or on opportunities. Opportunity is born through the birth pains of crisis.


2. Dare to dream


The poorest person in the world is the person without a dream, and the most frustrated person is a person with a dream that never becomes a reality. To be successful, you need to live your own dream and not try to live the dreams of others. You have to be successful for your own reasons. Share your dreams with others with care, because negative people will discourage you from striving
for your dream. All of us need encouragement as we dream. It is like oxygen
to the soul.


In South Africa there are generally two kinds of people – undertakers and caretakers, and neither of these are dreamers. The undertakers are people who always criticise and say that something will never work. Caretakers are those who are always taking care of other people’s dreams and never focus on their own potential.


When you dare to dream, you begin to use words like ‘it can be done’, ‘it is possible’ and you begin to understand the power of words. Words can build or break. Dreamers are people who have a positive attitude. They realise that it is not what is happening to them that counts, but how they react to the challenges. Dreamers think big and know that success does not come from doing the same thing the same way all the time. They constantly stretch themselves to improve.


3. Show determination and commitment


Staying power is all-important in reaching your dreams and goals. You need determination and commitment.
Embrace the five Rs:
Resolve – Determined and committed people resolve to do things now because they are hungry for growth and for success.
Refrain – Determined and committed people refrain from talking to negative people and refrain from negative influences.
Repeat – Once you are successful, you need to repeat the exercise so that you become even more successful. Success is a matter of repetition and consistency.
Responsibility – Realise that you alone are responsible for your future. You alone are responsible for the outcome of your efforts.
Re-invent yourself – Don’t become complacent. Consider new ways to become even more efficient in your skill.


4. Be disciplined


As you mess with success, you begin to understand that you have to be disciplined.
Self-discipline is often the missing element in many lives. Nobody can discipline you, but yourself. At some time or other you have to say ‘No’ to certain things in life – this is called delayed gratification – you pay now, you play later.
Although a lack of discipline might not have any immediate impact on your life, you need to realise that the pain and regret of these errors are only delayed, and will come back to bite you at a later stage. Both success and failure involve future consequences, namely the inevitable rewards or unavoidable
regrets resulting from past activities.


5. Make a difference


I urge you to show grace and generosity to those who are less fortunate than you are. Remember, what you do for your self disappears when you die, but what you do for others will remain a legacy. That is true success.


6. Set a SMART goal


Now that you know what you want to achieve or become, you need to define it by making it a goal. Your goal has to be:
S – Specific
M – Measurable
A – Attainable
R – Realistic
T – Timely


7. Adapt to technology


Dependency on technology will increase in the future. Spend time learning new computer programs to improve your productivity, not as just another new toy.


8. Embrace diversity


Get comfortable with other ethnic cultures, religions and customs. Learn a little about the customs and attitudes belonging to workers from other cultures
and countries. You do not have to compromise any personal values or standards in order to do this.


9. Be creative


Being creative demands thinking outside of the box and looking for innovative ways in which to solve persistent problems, increase productivity or produce a new product or service. What worked last year may not necessarily work today. When a challenge presents itself, be the first to offer a new viewpoint or recommend an alternate course of action. Your ideas, combined with the creative ideas from other employees, will help your organisation renew itself as necessary to be competitive in the 21st century.


10. Check your attitude


Believe in yourself and have an ‘I can’ attitude. Train yourself to look beyond the negative events and to see the opportunity cocooned within an obstacle. By doing this you will add value to those around you. Refuse to grumble when circumstances are adverse. Refuse to complain. Be grateful for where you are now, and for where you are headed. Your attitude determines your altitude!

*The above is an extract from David Molapo's book Choose to Change*

Chris, why am I not yet a millionaire?

“Dear Chris, I am young, driven, aspirational person. A while back I decided to set a financial goal for myself and given what I’ve heard you teach, the clear and definite goal which I set for myself was – By 31 December 2013, I will have R3,5million in my possession – the year is now drawing to a close and I am no richer than I was at the beginning of the year. Please help me understand what it is that I am doing wrong – thank you”.

Let’s unpack the above situation and let’s do this in a series of sequential steps so that by the time you have finished reading this article, your money and wealth consciousness will have escalated considerably, and, you will have also gained valuable insight into what you have to do if you want to have the universe deliver ‘The BIG Money’ to you…

Allow me to introduce you to The Laws of Compensation: Ralph Waldo Emerson says that The Law of Compensation is the law of laws. As Emerson says “Every act rewards itself”. This Law is also known as The Law of Cause and Effect, or The Great Law or The Law of Karma. The best way to define compensation is what you invest time and effort wise into something is what you’re going to get back. To improve your life, you must first focus on and improve yourself. When you do this, you can expect good to be on its way to you. This Law will help you when you choose to help yourself.

This Law is based on three steps. Understand this clearly, the amount of money or good you will receive in your life is going to be in direct ratio with these three things:

1.      1. The need for what you do.

2.      2. Your ability to do it.

3.      3. The difficulty there will be in replacing you.

So, to build on point 1, if you want to be a millionaire, desiring to have R3,5million in your possession, then as your money coach, the very first question I am going to ask you is “Is there sufficient need for what to do, to deliver the R3,5million to you? How many people are benefitting from what you do? How many problems is your work solving? What true value are you adding to society? If you’re only adding some value to very few people, why should the universe reward you with large money? What makes you so special that it should rain money on you for what is really only a very small contribution to this world?”

Next, if you want to be a millionaire, desiring to have R3,5million in your possession, then as your money coach, the second question I am going to ask you is “What is your ability to deliver against what it is that you do? Are you an absolute expert? Is your work of a world-class standard? If not, if your work in only worth a few thousand Rand at best, then why should the universe deliver R3,5million to you? Do you think the universe should give you more than what your work is truly worth? If yes, who gave you this false impression of your current monetary worth?”

Finally, if you want to be a millionaire, desiring to have R3,5million in your possession, then as your money coach, the third question I am going to ask you is “Is what you do, so unique that it is very difficult to find anyone else who can do what you do? If what you do is also done by many others, then why should you be demanding ‘The BIG Money’ from the Universe? If an average burger and chips costs R30-00 would you pay R30,000-00 for an average burger and chips just because the person believes their burger and chips is worth that amount? I think not! So, why would the universe shower millions of Rands on you if what you deliver is ordinary, of benefit to just a few people and doesn’t really make much a difference to society and humanity?”

Yes, I know this is a very hard-hitting money article, however, as a money coach, it is my job to make sure that you understand that you will be rewarded according to the value which you create and so, if you create little value, then even if you go down on your knees every day and pray to universe for millions of Rands, know this, the money won’t come because that’s not how the universe works.

The universe is very fair and rewards you exactly with what you truly deserve, not a cent more. The universe will deliver to you in accordance what you deliver to others. Deliver little value, expect to receive little money. Deliver huge value to thousands of people and expect to receive millions of Rands. It is as simple as this.

BY:Chris_Styles41

 

 

 

 

 

Live Through Dying Places

In America, October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. It’s a reminder that we can
overcome obstacles and live through dying places. All of us have been affected by
cancer, whether directly or indirectly. We must encourage our loved one’s/friends, to
schedule their Doctor’s appointments and increase their awareness about various forms
of cancer.

The saying goes, “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” We must be more
proactive than reactive. It’s very important that we examine ways in which to improve
our lifestyles, eating habits, level of fitness, relationships, and overall personal
development.

Every second in America, 2-3 people are diagnosed with cancer. Those are startling
statistics, yet harsh realities. Cancer is no respecter of age, race, gender, or economic
standing. A diagnosis is not a death sentence and the bright side is that there are 2.5
million breast cancer survivors, living in the United States.

How do you respond to the interruptions of life? How do you deal with hardship and
life’s challenges? These are the same questions I asked myself, being diagnosed with
cancer as a teenager. For nearly 2 years, I endured chemotherapy and radiation, 5 days
a week. The physical pain was unbearable with hair loss, nausea, spinal taps, etc.
Oftentimes the psychological pain took an even greater toll, where I wanted to give up
and die.

I was in the fight of my life, but I decided to resurrect faith in the midst of fear. I was at
death’s door, but I was determined to live. My belief connected with God’s healing
power and I gained the victory. To overcome I had to change my mindset from negative
to positive and see the impossible as I’m possible. I had to see the word “CAN” in
CANcer, that in spite of what I’m enduring I CAN make it and I CAN overcome…so CAN
YOU!

You’re reading the words of a stage 4 CANcer survivor! By God’s grace and healing
power, I am alive today. I have overcome and continue to live through dying places.
YOU CAN too! In spite of the situation you’re facing, look at the pain and resurrect
power in the midst of it. Resurrect a smile in the midst of sadness. Resurrect a mindset
to overcome the odds. Shake yourself free from every breakdown and transform it into a
breakthrough…you can LIVE through DYING places!

BY: EddieConnorJr

Whose report will you BELIEVE??

There are so many voices that you have given Lordship in your life, so much so that when these voices speak you take what they say to be true. These voices may be your parents who have said that you will never be anything in life because of your temporary setbacks. It may your own destructive thoughts telling you that there is nothing left to live anymore that you might as well give up. It may society telling you that the unemployment rate is increasing, so you will never get a job. It may be your family telling you that in your family such professions are not allowed, because they don’t bring money, but my question to you today is : Whose report will you believe?

Whose voice have you amplified so much do that you believe the facts, which are always subject to change, through the word of God. I urge this morning not to go by the facts, but to take God at his word. Not everything that is said, that you must apply in your life. Be selective in your listening, if it’s not aligned with the word, don’t speak that in your life. This is what the word says:, I have plans to prosper you not to harm you,  plans to give you a hope and future.

I have made you the head and not the tail, and given you dominion over all things. As I AM SO YOU ARE. I am blessed and can never be cursed; the Lord has blessed all the work of my hands. I am co-heir with Christ. I own the whole world. Those are the confession that you must daily make over your life, because you will become what you constantly say. You are a Victor in Christ! Availability

Never judge a persons story/pain you dont understand!!

When I lived in Cape Town a few years ago, I used to stay live in an area which has a high rate of prostitution, literally during the day, you would stop the car and in an instant you would have a lady by your window, asking “How much”. For some crazy reason I was fascinated by their lifestyle, not in way that I would ever be a prostitute, but inside me I had this burning desire to find out what drives a person to the point of desperation that they are willing to sleep with a man they don’t know? Inside I kept on thinking how desperate must one get to subject themselves to such a danger

So my curious self-decided to stalk one of them, well I didn’t really get to talk to her, don’t even know what her name is, but every night I would stand on the balcony and wave at her. Almost all the time it was just before a car parked at the side to pick her up. I juts grieved for her, but at the same time my then religious mind condemned her. I mean I would smile at her all the time, even during the day when I saw her drive away in another man, but inside I said hurtful words, all in ignorance because back then I was lil Miss Perfect and religion had taught me that anyone who wasn’t as perfect as me, or those I associated with was devilish.

But there is something about hitting rock bottom that makes you realise how imperfect you are , outside of Christ. Now don’t go thinking that I did drugs or whatever it wasn’t that bad, but for me my defining moment , or what Oprah call my “AHaah” moment came when I missed the mark in a certain area of my life and right there and then I began to see people differently. No longer did I have labels, to justify a lifestyle, the root of which I didn’t know. No longer did I run way from those that were not like me, but I embraced them with love.

I grew to understand the grace of God and I believe that I have not as yet fully grasped it. I learned that you may hate the lifestyle of a person, but never the person. You may hate certain behaviours, but it’s not in your pace to judge, but to love. Even your rebuke must be done so in love. Love is powerful; it’s the greatest force against any sin. Love, agape deals with sin by grace.

So when you walk down the street tomorrow and you see someone who doesn’t look like you, doesn’t act the way you think is appropriate. Before  you judge, verbally or within, Know this: That we are all made in the image and likeness of God and its LOVE  that we are need to walk in with all man, till we all walk  the reality of who we are in Christ.