Be a women of self control!

LADIES: The greatest gif, after love, that will keep you in your single hood is self-control. So many of the times we have said things like “he came unto me, or forced me to sleep with him “ and the truth of the matter is that you are always in control, until you don’t want to be. In no way I am saying a man is not right by wanting to sleep with you, nor am I ignoring the fact that there are some men who force themselves onto woman, actions that I totally condone.

But I am sure by now we are on the same page and you understand exactly in what context I am speaking. I have learned that the greatest person you must know is yourself, and when you know yourself, you will know what buttons someone has to press to get what they want out of you and the kind of situation /set ups that push you to compromise on standards that you have set for yourselves. I really do believe that we must come to maturity where we don’t put ourselves in a situation where will be tempt. We can no longer use term such as satan tempted me, that is not good enough of an excuse anymore.

For instance you know that if I guy ask you to come over to his place/room at 11 pm for a movie*not always making an example*, there is not going to be too much movie watching there, then why go when you know what that led to the last time he asked you to come over for a movie. It is such situations that you can avoid. Now there are men, who by grace, have mastered self-control, whom you can be around and know that you are so secure. On the contrary there are those guys whom when you are around you know that there will be mischief and it is fun, but always know that temporary satisfaction always has long term results.

In essence I am saying that we must mature now, move passed  they stage of just doing things cause it’s fun, because the truth of the matter , is that the things we did/do as fun, are the things that take the longest to overcome. Like I always say marriage will not solve what you never allowed God to change while you are single.

I used to always make the most perverted remarks every time I saw  a handsome guy walk passed me, and it became such a habit what, till  I said within, began to come out, and it was not attractive. Till God rebuked me and said that what you are doing now will become a habit that you will carry on doing even when you are married. Now I look, it’s only natural too, but never comments, only because I had to train myself daily to be disciplined in this area. That is what we should be doing as single ladies allowing God, through is word, to mature the immature areas in our lives.

LADIES, Yield to God the Holy Sprit, let him break you, make you, then shape you into the pearl and vessel of honour that he crated you to be. You are so precious, full of God divine purpose. You are royalty, you matter to God. If no one has ever told you this , then I am telling YOU are beautiful, amazing ,fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God.